The myth about managing time

So I’m reading Make Time for Your Life by Cheryl Richardson, which was recommended to me by a very good friend of mine who also happens to be a fellow writer and nature lover. I’ve found this book immensely helpful so far other than some of the misguided comments Cheryl makes about therapists (she’s a coach). When people say things like: “therapists always focus on problems and the past rather than action,” I want to scream from the rooftops:

Have you been trained in a professional counseling or psychology program? Because if you had, you’d realize that isn’t the case!

Not to mention that sometimes a person’s current state of affairs and behavior patterns are rooted in past experiences that need to be unstuck. Sometimes. Not all the time. I don’t always need to know immense detail about a person’s relationship with their mother/father to help them… it may or may not be relevant for them to reach their goals. So sweeping statements about how therapy isn’t for people always make me cringe because you don’t know everyone’s training and the same prescription doesn’t help everyone.

I just have a PhD in counseling… what do I know. 🙂

But I digress. A lot of the exercises in this book I have recommended in some form to my clients, but having specific journal prompts and ideas about simplifying life all in one text has been very helpful.

One thing that struck me in particular was the idea that you don’t really manage time, but rather manage yourself. This is due to the fact that there are only a finite amount of hours in the day. You don’t create more time (if you ever learn how to do that, hit me up), rather you just clear your schedule for the things that matter to you and try to deal with any discomfort that arises from letting certain things go. While this may seem like semantics, I do think it’s a helpful mindset: The idea that you’ll have to let some things go in order to have the time for things you enjoy, as you likely currently don’t have time to devote to those things, so adding more into your already packed schedule will likely be stressful and setting yourself up for failure.

I’m going to try to start reprioritizing my time and letting go of some things accordingly.

What drains your energy?

What do you want to prioritize but haven’t?

For me that’s writing, painting, and time in nature… I’m working on it.

Much love,

Natalie

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