Redefining Therapy

One of my friends is going through a hard time. Today we both went to the local Y and swam laps. I'm not his therapist, I'm his friend, but I found myself wondering about doing something similar with my clients. Or winning the lottery and opening a facility where I could have a session that [...]

2019 Reflection and 2020 Goals

I can't believe another year has gone by... time really does fly. If 2019 taught me anything, it’s that you can’t wait for people to show up for you how you want them to and the sooner you accept yourself for who you are— your true nature, the less time you’ll waste and the less [...]

Behavioral Addictions

This is truly one of my passions-- treating behavioral addictions. Behavior or process addictions actually activate the same pleasure pathways in the brain as substance addictions do... and they can be just as much if not more difficult to manage! This might include sex, porn, gaming, shopping, gambling, relationships... really, the possibilities are endless. Remember [...]

Ballroom Blast

I went out ballroom dancing for the first time in years, same place I used to go and it truly was like I never left. I did think people would forget me for some reason so it was nice to be pleasantly surprised that you are still part of a group that means so much [...]

Midnight Musings

I really have to stop taking responsibility for trying to fix other people's behavior that I didn't like or don't agree with. It's not all on me to mend connections or potential connections with people. And putting energy into people who wouldn't do the same for you is damaging and depleting. My time is valuable [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I'm exhausted. I've had meltdowns. The journey to getting my doctorate is such a humbling process. I'm tired of not being good at things and constantly making mistakes. It just gets exhausting. However, this video I think actually describes what I'm going through quite well. When you go through any transition and compare yourself to [...]

Wellness Wednesday

There are actually so many things I want to write about. The wilderness I explored in Washington state Joker the movie The difference between a therapist and life coach. But it's midnight and I'm reflecting on the conference I presented at last week. I was so nervous and my presentation didn't go as smoothly as [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I'm leaving for Seattle in a few hours to present at a conference. I would have liked to have had more time to prepare, but it is what it is. Dissertation is such a lonely and isolating process, it's unreal. You do receive help from your committee and mentors for sure... but, everything really all [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I was going to say that today was awful, but it didn't end up that way. Having a select few people who care about me helps my anxiety tremendously. People who will do things for me and make decisions when my brain stops working. Everything started off wrong today. The computer I recently bought doesn't [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I certainly haven't been feeling very well. I'm not able to really strike a balance with anything in my life it seems. I feel like in order for me to do a good job at one thing, something else has to suffer--whether that's neglecting personal projects, sleep, exercising, eating correctly... more often than not I [...]