For as far back as I can remember, I have always wanted a companion, romantic feelings not required, but would be nice. I don’t feel as though I have been really known by my family. They seemed to have been too busy with their own lives to take the time to get to know what […]
I recently paid a much needed visit to my home town of Batavia, Illinois. It was brief, but helped. It’s good to get back in touch with your roots … if you have any. That’s a tough one for me, because I often feel like I don’t belong anywhere as I’ve moved so much. But […]
First, I hope everyone has a happy and safe Fourth of July if you’re in the United States and celebrating. I wanted to point out that if you recognize which love style best describes you, it likely shows up not only in your intimate relationships, but in every close relationship that you have (parents, friends, […]
This isn’t the love languages, but I recently started reading How We Love and have found it enormously helpful thus far. It has helped me figure out my patterns of relating to people (formed in childhood) and how they have caused havoc in some of my friendships/relationships, some more than others. To anyone who has dated me, […]
The fields do not sleep and tonight neither do I. Country roads beckon me and I wander not quite alone, fireflies are quiet but sure friends.
The title of this sounds a lot more depressing than I mean it to, but I’ve been struggling lately. If you have anxiety, depression, or are dealing with trauma, it really comes down to you being able to regulate yourself and working toward getting yourself to be able to find out what’s true and what’s not. […]
Today I swam in a lake, even though I couldn’t see the bottom and I felt the sun on my skin while I read and wrote. I took the day entirely to myself and went to Moraine State Park, in spite of the work I could be doing on my dissertation and coursework for […]