Wellness Wednesday: The Vacillator Love Style

First, I hope everyone has a happy and safe Fourth of July if you’re in the United States and celebrating. I wanted to point out that if you recognize which love style best describes you, it likely shows up not only in your intimate relationships, but in every close relationship that you have (parents, friends, […]

Attachment Wounds

What is particularly distressing about intimate relationships can be … the intimacy itself, depending on your attachment style. Your past wounds/hurts/insecurities/whatever you want to call it regarding being in any type of relationship and relating to other individuals emerge when you’re in an intimate relationship. “Emerge” may be too soft a word, sometimes your issues […]

Wellness Wednesday: Your Love Style

This isn’t the love languages, but I recently started reading¬†How We Love¬†and have found it enormously helpful thus far. It has helped me figure out my patterns of relating to people (formed in childhood) and how they have caused havoc in some of my friendships/relationships, some more than others. To anyone who has dated me, […]

A Day for Myself

  Today I swam in a lake, even though I couldn’t see the bottom and I felt the sun on my skin while I read and wrote. I took the day entirely to myself and went to Moraine State Park, in spite of the work I could be doing on my dissertation and coursework for […]

Wellness Wednesday: Guilt, Shame, and Forgiveness

June 6th is always a hard date/anniversary for me. It’s strange that Wellness Wednesday happened to fall on it, when I haven’t been doing this for very long. Five years ago today my Grandma on my mom’s side passed away while I was holding her hand. I was watching her breath fog up her oxygen […]

Wellness Wednesday

My own computer was not cooperating, so I am writing this brief post at school. I think over the past week I have come to recognize and value simplicity in my life. I don’t mean to say simple-mindedness, I mean weeding out the fluff, unnecessary hassles and people in my life. I have gotten better […]