Wellness Wednesday: Better Late Than Never

This is the second week of my final semester of my doctorate... before I just have my dissertation. Yikes. I did manage to exercise today, though, which is positive. I've found that I often beat myself up for not being where I think I should be, pretty much I beat myself up for not being... [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Doubting Yourself

I think it's normal to doubt yourself. Most humans do at certain points. However, relational trauma coupled with anxiety and spell disaster and cultivate paralyzing self-doubt. I try to combat my paranoid thoughts that pop up from time to time. Thoughts that I'm not good enough, that my friends actually don't like me, that my [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Change Is Hard And Inevitable

Change will come, whether we wish it to or not. To fight it is like fighting the sunrise. Better to say, "Ah, welcome old friend. Here you are again." This quote actually comes from a children's book that I'm reading, but it's pertinent throughout life. If you've been anxiety-ridden like I have, you know that [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Short and Sweet

Due to a my last doctoral class for the summer finishing up today, I have limited time to really construct something. But, I did meet with a very good friend this afternoon before I headed to my university. She is also very well acquainted with relational trauma and activation. It's imperative that if you too [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Connection, or Lack Thereof

Just as the tides produce a cycle of balance, you, in your relationships, can intentionally go through cycles that will bring you and your partner into balance and deeper intimacy. For anyone who has been reading my blog, you know I have been reading How We Love, by Yerkovich. I just finished it last night and [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Family and Boundaries

Don't let anyone rob you of your zen. Most people have at least one person who can easily get under their skin by a harsh comment or a sharp look, and more often than not these people are part of the family. It cuts deep when a parent shows disappointment or disgust with a choice [...]

Wellness Wednesday: The Vacillator Love Style

First, I hope everyone has a happy and safe Fourth of July if you're in the United States and celebrating. I wanted to point out that if you recognize which love style best describes you, it likely shows up not only in your intimate relationships, but in every close relationship that you have (parents, friends, [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Your Love Style

This isn't the love languages, but I recently started reading How We Love and have found it enormously helpful thus far. It has helped me figure out my patterns of relating to people (formed in childhood) and how they have caused havoc in some of my friendships/relationships, some more than others. To anyone who has dated me, [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Trusting Yourself and the Process

Most of the time I look fine. Sometimes I'm fine, most of the time I'm fine, in fact ... but my anxiety can be so intense/trauma trigger feelings so unbearable that I want to stay in bed all day. Ever since I started listening to The Body Keeps the Score, I've recognized that relational trauma has symptoms [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I'm so aggravated right now. For whatever reason wordpress won't load on my shit laptop so I'm writing from my shit iPhone4.  Anyhow. I'll keep this brief because I'm not feeling very "well" today anyway. Though I did submit a proposal to a conference so I guess that's something to feel good about. Keeping your [...]