Blogust 14: Release Yourself From Attachments

This has been huge for me lately. I've really had to let go of a lot of expectations I have had for how this semester will go, for other people, etc.  I've been trying so much harder to just show up authentically, live in the moment, and not be too far into the future or [...]

Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Parents — Review

This, honestly, was probably one of the most personally and professionally useful books I have read in a very long time. It is a quick read with so many useful vignettes as well as checklists that are easy to digest. It makes the material so much easier to apply to yourself. I have not read [...]

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self [Review]

This book has a wealth of helpful information for therapists and for people learning to gain self-insight, independently. Awesome. 5/5 stars for sure. If you grew up in stressful circumstances, this may not be a light read for you. I certainly found that to be the case. Though having a lot of things laid bare [...]

5 Signs of Relational Trauma

You don't trust people. You're able to "fake it" and appear connected with others on the surface, but you find yourself having visceral reactions of fear and disgust and pain when you have to rely on another person. You would rather do things yourself so you don't have to worry about or deal with involving [...]

I’m Reading Sylvia Plath’s Diary

A lot of inner turmoil has been coming up for me lately, but as I write this, it doesn't steal my peace and I know I have to take time for myself. Sylvia ... ended her life at age 30, and I remember in my teens vowing to myself to end my life by 30 [...]

Wellness Wednesday: The Vacillator Love Style

First, I hope everyone has a happy and safe Fourth of July if you're in the United States and celebrating. I wanted to point out that if you recognize which love style best describes you, it likely shows up not only in your intimate relationships, but in every close relationship that you have (parents, friends, [...]

Attachment Wounds

What is particularly distressing about intimate relationships can be ... the intimacy itself, depending on your attachment style. Your past wounds/hurts/insecurities/whatever you want to call it regarding being in any type of relationship and relating to other individuals emerge when you're in an intimate relationship. "Emerge" may be too soft a word, sometimes your issues [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Your Love Style

This isn't the love languages, but I recently started reading How We Love and have found it enormously helpful thus far. It has helped me figure out my patterns of relating to people (formed in childhood) and how they have caused havoc in some of my friendships/relationships, some more than others. To anyone who has dated me, [...]