Dancing and Connection

For people who say they don't like to dance... I don't comprehend. "Dancing" can incite fear in folks and I don't understand why. Maybe it's preconceived notions about what dancing actually is. Movement, of any kind, can be considered dancing. Pretty much everyone moves... swaying to a song or even to the wind I consider [...]

Distance and Connection

There's security in only allowing others to see you at your best Made up well-dressed. But pale, sickly Lip bloodied Feels too raw, My image sullied. What could be better than to remain at a safe distance a curated image untouched. You might be anything exciting in their mind But too far away from their [...]

The Horrors of Online Dating [and Entitled Men?] Part 1

I'm certain I'm not the only person who has experienced less than ideal dates after meeting someone on an online platform. lol. However, it never ceases to amaze me: the complete lack of tact and class of some folks... when I recall my own online dating experiences and learn of others' experiences too. I also [...]

True Attraction and Connection

Not very long ago when I was out and about at a dance event a male dance acquaintance of mine was talking about the frustrations of online dating. While I haven't used any of those platforms in a while, I can definitely relate. You think you might hit it off with someone and then they [...]

Two Faced

I've got pretty good at spotting two faced people a mile away. Their words don't match their actions. They tell the truth, or, more likely, partial truths when it suits them. A lot of the time this type of thing develops because people are too wishy washy to take a stand, or they just like [...]

How do you know if you’ve forgiven someone?

This is a tough thing to think about, and people often get it confused with saying what someone did is okay. Not so. I'm always learning about myself and what it means to be in connection with other people, but from what I've gleaned so far, forgiveness can be pretty complex. Here is how you [...]

Do you really, 100%, trust others?

Is it possible to completely trust another person? Maybe with some things but not others? People disappoint each other, unintentionally and on purpose, that is just part of being in relationships with others. I've been struggling lately with the extent of my trust in people (and it isn't a whole lot to begin with, mind [...]

Mental Load

I recently had a conversation with a friend about carrying the mental load in any connection with another person: romantic connections, friendships and working relationships. What do I mean by mental load ? Let me illustrate. Do you ever feel like the secretary in your friend group or colleague group? Meaning If there’s a meeting, [...]

Through the Storm

I sat out on the front porch today to do some work as a storm raged. Water was streaming off the roof just a few feet away. It was in the afternoon and really dark. Kind of matches my mood today. I'm not ready for the semester to start. I'm holding on as best I [...]

I had plans

To write some well crafted blog today about Hawaii and my experience there but instead I had a work meeting, interviewed a person with sex offenses for research, spent time swimming at a lake with one of my best friends, and came home to my boyfriend to confide a bunch of garbage that has been [...]