It’s my birthday

Photo by Ylanite Koppens on Pexels.com 32 years old today... where has time gone? I think I was dissociated for much of my 20s, but hey--- better late than never to become conscious and aware I suppose. Trauma, yay. But in all honesty every year since I've turned 30 has been the best year ever [...]

Happy New Year / Raw Process

Free photo—not my own for once I posted my 2021 intentions on the last post instead of this one, not sure why. I slept well and my day started off fine. I don’t work until the 4th, but as the day progressed I found my mood dipping lower and lower. I painted. I read. Watched [...]

I Became Your Therapist

Pro Bono Because I was too nice I’m easy to talk to (and take advantage of). But I’ve realized how valuable my time is As of late And I confessed feeling used Even after you confessed your love Unrequited Unfounded. You never even asked if I were seeing anybody Too caught up in the moment [...]

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self [Review]

This book has a wealth of helpful information for therapists and for people learning to gain self-insight, independently. Awesome. 5/5 stars for sure. If you grew up in stressful circumstances, this may not be a light read for you. I certainly found that to be the case. Though having a lot of things laid bare [...]

Paint How You Feel

A while ago I was instructed to paint how I was currently feeling in a class. This seems to represent my feelings often --- a mix of calm on the surface but so much going on underneath as well as a riot of color that I'm not always able to express. The sea obviously too [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Connection … when you grew up without it

Your relationships in your family of origin prime you for relationships in your adult life. If your emotional connection with your parents/family (or lack thereof) left you confused ... you will likely have a confusing time in your adult life with relationships, at least at first, until you work through some of your earlier connection/disconnection [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Self Care & Happiness

  Don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself. This week of solitude before the crazy last full semester of my doctorate starts is just what I needed. I've gotten to sleep in, work on writing projects at my leisure, and just be alone with my thoughts without having to rush around and worry about [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Your Love Style

This isn't the love languages, but I recently started reading How We Love and have found it enormously helpful thus far. It has helped me figure out my patterns of relating to people (formed in childhood) and how they have caused havoc in some of my friendships/relationships, some more than others. To anyone who has dated me, [...]