The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self [Review]

This book has a wealth of helpful information for therapists and for people learning to gain self-insight, independently. Awesome. 5/5 stars for sure. If you grew up in stressful circumstances, this may not be a light read for you. I certainly found that to be the case. Though having a lot of things laid bare [...]

Quarantine Day …32?

My dissertation defense date is set. I was agonizing over whether it would happen or not... and it will happen over Zoom. I can't help but be cynical about the timing, like, OF COURSE that would happen to me... such an anticlimactic finish to my PhD program... I won't get to stand at a podium [...]

The Smell of Breath Review

I follow Conor and his partner(s) on Instagram and Youtube, so it's always a treat to read something written by someone I feel like I ... sort of know? I'll start with saying that I absolutely loved what Conor prefaced this work with: This is not fiction. But I'm also not sure if it happened [...]

Relationship Obsession

I've given this a lot of thought. I think living in the United States especially ... as well as the influence of social media, really encourages relationship obsession. Meaning that if you aren't in a romantic relationship and posting Instagram perfect photos as "evidence" then there's something wrong with you. Disney movies likely don't help [...]

Redefining Therapy

One of my friends is going through a hard time. Today we both went to the local Y and swam laps. I'm not his therapist, I'm his friend, but I found myself wondering about doing something similar with my clients. Or winning the lottery and opening a facility where I could have a session that [...]

True Romance Movie Review [yes, spoilers]

  Apparently I saw this movie years ago and just don't remember, which is typical of my memory I guess. The only scene I really remembered was Bama doing cartwheels by the train yard... which is also a fitting image for the whole tone of this movie: endearing, raw, but also nuts. I love this [...]

Trauma and Shrinking

Let's just start by saying relational trauma is a thing. And it can make connecting with people especially hard. I realize that certain tendencies within myself are trauma responses. My tendency to clean when I'm anxious and don't feel well. Why do kids who grow up in unstable environments feel the need to be perfect [...]

Disability and Sexuality Research

  Greetings everyone, As part of my research at Duquesne University, my team and I are investigating disability and sexuality. If you are between the ages of 18 and 30, and have a disability of any kind (inclusive of autism, ADHD, and mental health disabilities) and feel comfortable taking an anonymous online survey about sexuality [...]

I have to reflect on yesterday …

I don't know what was going on with me yesterday, but it was proven to me multiple times over that my first thoughts about things are often very negative and wrong. So I was on my way to work (inpatient drug and alcohol rehab center). I work there sporadically. I get a text from a [...]