Relational Trauma: Soft Exterior Masks Silent Rage

With this short break between summer classes and the fall semester, I have had a lot of time to reflect. That can be good and bad. Nature has always been a safe haven for me. I remember running to the large garden in my backyard and hiding among the blossoms as a child to get [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Short and Sweet

Due to a my last doctoral class for the summer finishing up today, I have limited time to really construct something. But, I did meet with a very good friend this afternoon before I headed to my university. She is also very well acquainted with relational trauma and activation. It's imperative that if you too [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Trusting Yourself and the Process

Most of the time I look fine. Sometimes I'm fine, most of the time I'm fine, in fact ... but my anxiety can be so intense/trauma trigger feelings so unbearable that I want to stay in bed all day. Ever since I started listening to The Body Keeps the Score, I've recognized that relational trauma has symptoms [...]

All You Have Is You

The title of this sounds a lot more depressing than I mean it to, but I've been struggling lately. If you have anxiety, depression, or are dealing with trauma, it really comes down to you being able to regulate yourself and working toward getting yourself to be able to find out what's true and what's not. [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Fear

You know, I was in such a bad state last week that I started drafting this post. I do think fear runs my life much more than I realize, but I felt particularly awful and fearful last week. It's strange to revisit that because while I still deal with fear and anxiety daily, I am [...]

High Functioning Anxiety 10

I spent all of last week in Belize and took this photo at sea. Swimming is one of the few activities that usually calms and grounds me back into my body. Being completely present and not dissociated can be uncomfortable for me, I have a heightened startle response, I find people and things overwhelming. It's [...]

High Functioning Anxiety 8

I have been trying to take better care of myself, sleeping well, exercising, saying no to things immediately if they don't feel good to me, just doing things for myself, by myself... like taking walks and taking pictures ... I'd rather just drown in a field than anything else. My chest hurts right now... I [...]

Heartwounds: The Impact of Unresolved Trama and Grief on Relationships – Tian Dayton

3/5 Stars As a mental health professional, this was an easy and quick read. I could see myself assignment sections of this book to clients as well as the exercises in the back because it breaks down trauma in an easy to understand way, using simple language. I also appreciated the brief sections about dissociation. [...]