Wellness Wednesday

There are actually so many things I want to write about. The wilderness I explored in Washington state Joker the movie The difference between a therapist and life coach. But it's midnight and I'm reflecting on the conference I presented at last week. I was so nervous and my presentation didn't go as smoothly as [...]

Wellness Wednesday

I worked on my dissertation today for one hour instead of my allotted two. And yes. I felt guilty about that, but I tried not to. I spent time outside, and I think that's what I needed. I still think I'm recovering from teaching my five week class ... yes, I'm proud of myself, but [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Back to the Wild

There is nothing like going to the sea that brings me back to my wild nature. I try to hold onto it as best as I can. I am also reading Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, PhD, a Jungian psychoanalyst. It is absolutely beautiful, food for the soul, with its [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Doubting Yourself

I think it's normal to doubt yourself. Most humans do at certain points. However, relational trauma coupled with anxiety and spell disaster and cultivate paralyzing self-doubt. I try to combat my paranoid thoughts that pop up from time to time. Thoughts that I'm not good enough, that my friends actually don't like me, that my [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Overeating/Binge Eating

Still Wednesday in my time zone, so hah. Keeping this one short. I binge ate today on sweets. It happens a lot less regularly than it used to, but I just put on a baggy shirt for the day and keep it moving. I don't feel nearly as shameful about it as I used to, [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Connection, or Lack Thereof

Just as the tides produce a cycle of balance, you, in your relationships, can intentionally go through cycles that will bring you and your partner into balance and deeper intimacy. For anyone who has been reading my blog, you know I have been reading How We Love, by Yerkovich. I just finished it last night and [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Family and Boundaries

Don't let anyone rob you of your zen. Most people have at least one person who can easily get under their skin by a harsh comment or a sharp look, and more often than not these people are part of the family. It cuts deep when a parent shows disappointment or disgust with a choice [...]

Wellness Wednesday: The Vacillator Love Style

First, I hope everyone has a happy and safe Fourth of July if you're in the United States and celebrating. I wanted to point out that if you recognize which love style best describes you, it likely shows up not only in your intimate relationships, but in every close relationship that you have (parents, friends, [...]

Wellness Wednesday: Trusting Yourself and the Process

Most of the time I look fine. Sometimes I'm fine, most of the time I'm fine, in fact ... but my anxiety can be so intense/trauma trigger feelings so unbearable that I want to stay in bed all day. Ever since I started listening to The Body Keeps the Score, I've recognized that relational trauma has symptoms [...]

Wellness Wednesday

Sometimes planning ahead doesn't work. Having recently come from an impromptu interview of sorts, I am a little off balance. I was interested in applying for a graduate assistantship that the chair of the department mentioned in an email, so I directly messaged the person overseeing the position asking for more information. She asked to [...]