Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Parents — Review

This, honestly, was probably one of the most personally and professionally useful books I have read in a very long time. It is a quick read with so many useful vignettes as well as checklists that are easy to digest. It makes the material so much easier to apply to yourself. I have not read [...]

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self [Review]

This book has a wealth of helpful information for therapists and for people learning to gain self-insight, independently. Awesome. 5/5 stars for sure. If you grew up in stressful circumstances, this may not be a light read for you. I certainly found that to be the case. Though having a lot of things laid bare [...]

Quarantine Day 19

Sun permeates trees, inviting Spring awakens dormant rootsLet it fill your lungs and spiritWith hope Lazy day today, though I did go on a walk and did a minimal amount of work. Fighting against cabin fever is so much easier when you can go outside and actually feel the sun warming your skin. I was fortunate [...]

It’s not often

That I'm at a loss for words, but even if I just bulletted everything that happened today for you as well as my thoughts...I'm not sure it would adequately convey everything. I think the best way to describe it is just a resignation to this old familiar unhealthy pattern I've been in with a few [...]

Toll of Emotional Abuse

This is something I could write a book about... seriously. And I think I've only just begun to deeply understand it. A lot of times when people are emotionally abused, they don't realize that it's happening. At first. They may feel terrible, but especially when the abuse occurs in childhood, it can be seen as [...]

High Functioning Anxiety While Teaching

The blog that I wrote this week for my friend's private practice could not have come at a better time, it's on high functioning anxiety. I'll link it when it becomes live. It's relevant for me today because I taught my first class of the semester. Though I think I was repetitive and second guessed [...]

Anxiety During the Holidays

Today was just one of those days that I tried really hard. Lifted. Went on a walk because it was gorgeous out. And my anxiety was still very, very bad most of the day. I made it through seeing my two clients but overall my anxiety just ended up being unbearable. I'm tired of my [...]

Trauma and Shrinking

Let's just start by saying relational trauma is a thing. And it can make connecting with people especially hard. I realize that certain tendencies within myself are trauma responses. My tendency to clean when I'm anxious and don't feel well. Why do kids who grow up in unstable environments feel the need to be perfect [...]